Live In The NOW
"If you aren’t in the moment, you are either looking forward to uncertainty, or back to pain and regret.- Jim Carrey
Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.
- John Lennon
- John Lennon
Our entire lives are based on the future. Think about it. Ironic
isn’t it? We live now, to live later. We go to school to graduate, we
get a job to have money later, we meet people to get married and build a
family. We set up our lives for the prospect of being happy later.
My question to you is: what about the now?
It seems like we get so into looking forward to the future we forget
to stop and look around. Have you walked the same path every day of the
year, and only after 6 months or so you finally noticed something
interesting that’s been there all along? Where were you looking? Or were
you looking at all? Life nowadays is so stressful and busy, it seems
like we have retreated to living in our heads. And our bodies simply
serve the purpose of transporting our head.
Have we forgotten how to live in the moment? Why do I say “forgotten”? Because we had that gift. When we were children.
I love watching children. It’s a type of therapy for me. Not playing
with them, simply watching is enough. It seems to me that children are
the embodiment of everything that we adults have lost: innocence, sense
of adventure, unstoppable curiosity and thirst for discovering new
things, the lack of fear of failure, the confidence in their safety and
happiness. Children do not need two weeks to plan something fun. They
know that every moment is an opportunity. They believe in the
opportunity. If you think about it, its almost like… magic.
“Everyday, God gives us the sun- and also one moment in which we
have the ability to change everything that makes us unhappy. Everyday,
we try to pretend that we haven’t perceived that moment, that it doesn’t
exist- that today is the same as yesterday and will be the same as
tomorrow. But if people really pay attention to their everyday lives,
they will discover that magic moment. It may arrive in the instant that
we are doing something mundane, like putting the front door key in the
lock; it may lie hidden in the quiet that follows the lunch hour, or in
the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. But that
moment exists- a moment all the power of the stars becomes a part of us
to perform miracles.”- Osho
Now, I want you to go outside and take a full minute to just look at the sky. One minute. Look up, breathe. Feel alive.
the SECRET
“You create your own universe as you go along.” -Winston Churchill
“The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can
alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” -William James
“You want to become aware of your thoughts, you want to choose
your thoughts carefully and you want to have fun with this, because you
are the masterpiece of your own life.” – Joe Vitale
I was inspired by a documentary this
week, so if you have a minute in between studying and panicking, take a
look. It’s called “the Secret”. And what is this secret?
It’s very simple. It’s the Law of Attraction.
It’s a modern scientific theory that has to do with the effect of
”like attracts like”. It combines science and philosophy, in the sense
that it bases itself on the idea from physics that everything, if taken
to the basic level, is made up of energy. And thus, any thought you have
is not just a thought, but is also a strong impulse of energy, that
makes a difference in the flow of events in your life.
The Law states: I
attract to myself, whatever I give my focus, attention, or energy to;
whether wanted or unwanted. If you think about being poor, lonely,
unwanted and believe your thoughts, then guess what? That is exactly
what you’ll be. This Law applies to your life and every other person’s
life on the planet. Like all laws, it is impartial and impersonal, which
means it works when you want it to and when you don’t want it to.
This has happened, I’m sure, to nearly everyone. Think about it. If
you spend days afraid something will happen, it will most surely happen.
And when you are in a bad situation, everything seems to get worse and
worse. And on the contrary, happy people seem to have good things happen
to them.
You do not need to accept this as your new life philosophy,
especially since there are many criticisms of this theory (well, just as
any theory…) But try to pay attention to it. What I can guarantee is
that it wont hurt you to just make some small changes in your attitude
and lifestyle. And how do you know? Maybe this can dramatically alter
your life.
Simply think positively. Think about what you want in life. Make a
list. Stay away from negatives, such as ”I don’t want to be alone”, or
”I don’t want to be sad.” THINK IN THE POSITIVE.
“I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations.
I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace
rally, I’ll be there.” -Mother Teresa
What I think is a good idea is just to start to be aware of your
thoughts. If you’re sad, just fake a smile. You’ll feel better even if
you’re pretending. It’s like a placebo effect at first, but once the
endorphins start flowing in your body, you will feel genuinely better.
Pay attention to the music you listen to. Is it focused on negative
emotions? What kind of things you discuss with friends? Do you spend all
your time whining about your problems instead of finding solutions?
Imagine starting to believe in yourself and your infinite
possibilities. Imagine believing you deserve everything you want out of
life. Imagine getting everything you want out of life. Feel as if you
already accomplished it.
If even you don’t believe in it, then how can you expect to achieve it?
Once you apply the Law of Attraction everything is possible.
“When I get sad, I stop being sad, and be awesome instead… True story !” – Barney Stinson, from How I Met Your Mother.
Learning to think for ourselves part2: What is love?
Disney Gave Me Unrealistic Expectations about LOVE
Thank you Disney for teaching us that:
Glass slippers and pumpkin carriages are comfortable,
Meeting strangers in the forest is a good idea,
Difficulties and obstacles don't drive men away, but inspire them to pursue you even more,
Swapping your voice and family for a pair of legs is a good deal,
If you love them enough, love will transform beasts or ugly frogs into gorgeous Princes,A man will fall in love with you at first sight if you look pretty enough,
Men will change when they grown up and fall in love,
If you suffer and do nothing long enough a Prince will come along and save your ass,
Never give in on the first try, women have to be difficult and hard to get. and hard to understand.
Men never feel you up when kissing. ((Or move. Or use tongues.))
Cleaning and cooking is a fantastic way to spend your life,
Parents never understand the reality of things,
Beauty=good, ugly=bad.
Be beautiful and life will be great, people will love you.
Be beautiful and life will be great, people will love you.
and many more.
So.
What is love anyway?
What is love anyway?
"If, from our childhood on, the examples of love were not there inviting us to copy them, would we know what "loving" means?" -Milan Kundera, The Torn Curtain.
Ever found yourself actually searching for someone to crush on? Have certain criteria, search, ask around, then find them and start bombarding that person with your emotions? Can we really ever love a person who we don't know intimately? Because if we don't know that person, if we haven't seen the true them, their souls, how can we say that we love them? Do we simply love the idea of them, our perception of them? We take people, and make them fit into our fantasy of how love should work, turning away from the things that don't fit, filling in the blanks, and concentrating on our perceptions.
Are we just constantly trying to play out our own fantasies without pausing to remove the filter, the pink glasses from our eyes and actually see the real picture?
Going back to the quote, if we were not shown/told those horrendous lies by the Disney corporation on what love is, would we perceive it differently?
------Would women still believe that their role is to be passive, to wait, to be the one who is pursued endlessly, the damsel in distress, the Princess?
------Would women still believe that men have to be macho-men, brave, fearless, the pursuer, the savior, the Prince Charming on a White Stallion?
Or would we have different ideas on how this whole thing should work?
More realistic ideas?
Really, Disney dug us a very deep hole to fall into right after childhood.
Once we grow up and get our reality checks, we hit rock bottom. It just doesn't make sense in our minds, everything we've been taught before just doesn't seem to work. We blame ourselves, or make excuses. But simply, we've been fed lies.
Time to grow up, ladies.
Chances are, that there is no Prince Charming coming to get you from the damn tower. So learn to walk on your own.
Don't expect this perfect scenario. All you'll get is pain and dissapointment.
Now, of course I'm not saying that romance is dead, or that men are incapable of love.
What I'm saying is that if you ahead of time, set up this screenplay of how exactly things should go, what is the Right Way, then you're just doomed. There is absolutely so way any human being can live up to your standards. So don't expect them to.
Besides, if it isn't rough, it isn't fun. The complications and imperfections are what make the relationships work in a way, they make them real, they give them the opportunity to grow and improve.
Why teach kinds stuff that they will have to relearn later? Why simplify things just so they get shocked out of it by how weird and complicated everything really is? Why drill these expectations into their brains and shut out other possibilities or variations? Why is it impossible to love an ugly person? A fat person? A person of the same sex? This is possible, but it comes as such a shock, because we were not shown that option. It was simply never offered to us as kids.
So why not get them really ready for what's out there but set them up for pain and disappointment? Or is that a natural part of life? Or have we just gotten use to it so much that we simply believe that its a natural part of life?
Think for yourself. Make your own decisions and opinions. Don't simply accept what's been offered to you on a platter.
BY THE WAY...
While we're on the whole Disney Theme, a modern artist recently drew a more grown-up version of the Princes.. take a look: (hint: they're wearing nothing but undies.. mmm..)
http://community.livejournal.com/ohnotheydidnt/39849010.html#cutid1
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