"Some people are settling down, some people are settling, but some people still refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies.” –Sex and the city
Winter is slowly but surely settling into its rightful place, limiting people and forcing them indoors. As nature prepares to fall into a deep sleep, I think it’s hard for people not to start feeling lonely. Especially for all the singles out there. It’s always hard to stay indifferent seeing people walk around holding hands, but I think in winter its even more apparent, since it’s the time of the year when cuddling up together and drinking hot drinks is not only nice, but is necessary.
So, I got thinking about love, or more specifically, attraction. The birth of love.
For centuries people have tried to explain it, find theories, rules, patterns, etc. But ultimately I think no one really knows how to explain it, or how to influence it. If we believe scientists, that attraction is purely based on physical attraction, on smell, etc., or if we believe philosophers, that it’s all about subconscious energies feeling that they are compatible, why is it that most of the time we get it wrong? Or one person thinks it’s right and the other feels the complete opposite? And then how can we explain break ups? If you love someone but it doesn’t work out, where does the love go?
Is it enough simply to have a certain collection of compatible elements, such as physical attractiveness, certain level of intellectuality, sense of humor, and so on, to fall in love? Or should there be something extra, something that we refer to as “chemistry”? And what determines it, is it really something having to do with physiology or chemicals?
I doubt it. Call me romantic if you must, but I think that anyone who has truly thinks they have been in love can agree with me. I think scientist just try to suck all the beauty out of love, trying to explain it. Some science is present in the birth of love, of course, but it is limited to the physical. The most important part of love and attraction are on the level of feelings, the so-called butterflies, and cannot, and probably should not be explained. They should be felt.
There is a theory that the only way to feel close to God is to love and be loved. But whether or not you believe in God, soul mates and all that I think that everyone can agree with me that love is the purest and highest feeling one can ever feel in life. It is quite different from simple lust, friendship, etc.
So, if you found it, cherish and appreciate it. If not, don’t loose hope. Live life to the fullest, enjoy, be yourself and with a patience and perhaps a little luck you will find it. But do be patient, because if you really want the real thing, if you refuse to settle for anything less than “butterflies”, if you want something amazing, then isn’t it worth waiting for?
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